by James Stefanile, ABR, GRI, SRES, QSC, REALTOR/Associate, Prudential NJ Properties
Does anyone remember the science fiction classic “Forbidden Planet” ? By all accounts, this 1956 movie, shot in the ground-breaking CinemaScope was the grand-daddy of the “Star Trek” and “Star Wars” franchises. It also introduced the concept of “monsters from the id” (the subconscious), whereby destructive entities could be manufactured from a person’s mind. The mad scientist in the movie was doing just that using alien technology from an extra-terrestrial civilization called “The Krell” (click the underlined text for a clip from the movie).
Below are a few “monsters from the id” – the buyer’s subconscious – which all purchasers of real estate should beware of:
Wishy-washy commitment: How often have I heard buyers say “I want to make an offer but the garage is too small and there aren’t enough closets.” If you have reservations about a property DON’T MAKE THE OFFER! Your committment to the property should be absolute. If this home isn’t a good fit why would you want to spend hundreds of thousands of dollars to buy it?
Negotiating excuses: The same reservations in the above monster are often used as negotiating levers. “I’d offer more if the kitchen was bigger”, etc. I rarely believe these kinds of statements. The comps are the guide and if you don’t like the kitchen then find another house whose kitchen you will like. Don’t couch your unwillingness to spend more money by knocking the house you’re trying to buy.
Disregarding the Comps: The sold prices of comparable properties are the best guide to the workings of the market. You, Mr. and Mrs. and Ms. buyer are not exempt from these market forces, therefore, you cannot hope to succeed by ignoring or disregarding the comps.
Busting the Budget: How often I’ve heard “this house is stretching our budget” or “this is more than I wanted to spend on a house.” Well then, we need to look in a lower price range, period. If, in fact, you want this house then quit whining, and negotiate in good faith.
Your Loving Family: I’m sure any buyer’s mother, father, brother, sister or children are more savvy negotiators than I am. After all, I’ve only been involved with 200 or so real estate transactions. When I hear perfectly reasonable buyers come up with negotiating strategies that make no sense, I always suspect there’s a family member lurking somewhere. This is especially worrisome when the family member is the buyer’s parent. Don’t forget, you are still their CHILD. It’s taken me years to learn not to offer advice to my daughter just for the sake of saying something. I understand the parental motivation and it’s only offered with the best of intentions. That doesn’t make it right or effective or guaranteeing your success unless the parent is a practicing expert for whatever advice is being offered. The flip side of this is the buyer’s acceptance of this advice as a child accepts the guidance of a parent, without question. This is further complicated if the parent is contributing funds toward the purchase. I want buyers to respect their family’s advice. I also want buyers to choose the right advice that will guarantee success. I’m not saying a buyer should accept my advice only. I am very careful with my advice to a buyer during negotiations because I won’t have to live in the house, you will, and it ain’t my money, it’s yours. I also don’t want anyone to wake up one morning with the thought that I forced them to buy anything. You can be sure my advice is based on what is best for you. Your family should adhere to the same standard.
Scorched Earth Negotiating: It’s always been my opinion that a successful deal will either satisfy everyone or make both sides grumble a little. It is never my intention to negotiate in order to slay the other party. My objective is not to have the other party beaten and bloody at the end of the day. I see some buyers who obviously feel differently. When I hear “take it or leave it” I know there will be no deal. When the buyer digs their heels into an aggressive posture I know they will not be successful. Our objective is to buy a house, not to assassinate anyone.
Home Inspection Discounts: Believe it or not, it’s true. Some buyers use the home inspection negotiations as another way to bring the price of the home down. Don’t forget, the contract can still be voided “for cause” at that point in the transaction. If either a buyer or seller stakes out an unreasonable position, we can still fail. The big distinction in asking for credit on a home inspection issue is “defect” vs. “maintenance”. A maintenance issue is an ongoing task which needs be performed to keep a system in good order. A defect is where something is broken, busted or otherwise inoperative and is in need of repair or replacement. The buyer has no right to a better house than the seller is selling. If the kitchen doesn’t have granite countertops, the buyer has no right to ask the seller to provide a credit because of that.
Distrust of the REALTOR: Thank heavens it doesn’t happen that often to me. I know there are buyers out there who think REALTORS only want them to spend more to pad our commissions. The truth is our commissions are only affected in any serious way with the addition of a hundred thousand dollars or more. Anything less than that and our commissions increase by very little. Anyway, it’s the seller who’s paying us, not the buyer. Another phenomenon is when a buyer trusts a REALTOR’s knowledge and experience about finding the home and then that trust evaporates when the negotiations start. I am here to help you succeed. If you are committed to buying a home, I can help you achieve that goal.
The mad scientist in “Forbidden Planet” eventually destroys himself by invoking the “monsters from the id” (click the underlined text for a clip from the movie). His objective was to obliterate someone else and he only succeeded in doing it to himself. I believe there is nothing more disappointing than failing because of ourselves. There’s a million reasons why real estate negotiations and transactions don’t succeed. Many are external, brought about by things we have no control over. What we do have control of is our own motivations and behavior. “Forbidden Planet” has also been compared to Shakespeare’s “The Tempest”. In his tragedies, Shakespeare’s used the concept of “Hamartia” or a hero’s failure or tragic end based on his own “fatal flaw”. Buyers need to beware their own baser instincts. Before we unleash our destructive, failure insuring “monsters” we need to step back and examine our behavior in order to succeed.